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Today I want to think about the good and the bad of studying

○Good points
1a_Your knowledge increases.
2a_You become more tolerant of what you do not
　　understand.
3a_You will be able to de-emphasize when writing
4a. You will be able to consider problems from
　　different directions
7a_You will be independent because you will be
　　equipped to solve problems and issues.
8a_You will not make unnecessary mistakes because
　　you will be better at making arrangements.
9a_You will increase your savings.
10a_You will have less time to be bored.
11a_You can contribute to your place of employment.
12a_12a_You have the potential to accomplish things
　　 that others would look up to.
　　 Because you persistently think about problems
　　 and try to solve them again and again.
13a_Better contact between your reality and
　　 the reality of others.
　　 →Because you will have more opportunities
　　 to see for yourself how you think.
14a_You become less worldly
　　(you become like a robot).
15a_You become less bitter about loneliness.

○Bad Points
1b_You judge that the more difficult the content you
　　are studying is, the less difficult it is for others
　　to challenge you.
　→For example, people who work on difficult math
　　problems look down on people who cook good food.
2b_You will go out less and exercise less.
　→If you continue to study only, you will have fewer
　　friends and less habit of going out.
3b_You become fat and your physical strength,
　　as well as attractiveness, declines.
4b_You are more likely to be lonely.
5b_You look down on others and feel that your
　　relationships with others are worthless.
6b_You lose interest in others.
7b_You will also have a shorter lifespan.

○ Summary
I think 5b is the worst change.
You should maintain regular contact with your family, friends, and loved ones, even if you must continue
your studies.
If they contact you, you should respond in good faith.

And to study only is a long way from being happy.
Encouraging others to study is tantamount to
trying to make that person lonely.
For this reason, when you encourage others to study,
you should also suggest going out.
Example. Why don’t you study on Friday and Saturday
and go fishing on Sunday? etc.

On the other hand, if you do not study, you can live happily every day, but your status will not improve because you will not be independent.

Neither not studying at all nor studying only is good.

Maybe the secret to enjoying life is to plan days to study alone and days to go out with those close to you.
Thanks for reading this far.

I do not consider my father a good person.
My father had a disease that made him drink too much.
I just want to remember my father in the past and think about what kind of person my father was.

My father was a man who didn’t talk much and was quiet.
Also, he always wore a coveralls.
In addition to alcohol, he smoked cigarettes.
My father preached to me only a little.

My father graduated from a local high school and went to work for a company in the city.
Then he met and married my mother and I was born.

My father seemed to like getting various driver’s licenses.
He also had special licenses that he did not use for everyday or work purposes.

I have several certifications that I don’t even use in my daily/work life as well.
I was a little surprised to notice the resemblance to
my father.

I used to think that my idea of increasing what I could do was my own.
But perhaps I got this idea from watching my father try when I was very young.

When I was in high school, my father began drinking on the job.
My mother also suffered considerable heartache.

Usually at home you can relax, but at our house there was a lot of tension.
My mother had to stop my father from drinking.
I mentioned earlier that my father was a quiet man, but not when he was inebriated.

Why did my father drink so much alcohol every day?
I could ask him myself, but I would like to speculate here.

At the very least, drinking on the job is out of the norm.
He hated his job?
Did he hate his life, which was not alternative no matter how many years he worked?
Did he want his wife and I to notice that he was hurting?

I don’t think my father and mother talked much.
I don’t remember seeing my father and mother having a pleasant chat when I was in middle and high school.
This makes me wonder why my father and mother got married.

My father didn’t talk much.
Also, my mother could not understand my father, or
Maybe she didn’t try to understand him.
If that were the case, even if my father had summoned up the courage to speak honestly to my mother about his feelings, she would not have understood, and my father would have been more alone.

I have written a long time.
I would like to summarize what kind of person
my father was.

・My father tended to be more conscious of his differences from others by obtaining a driver’s license.

Drinking alcohol while working meant that he did not value his job, and he thought he could lose his job at any time.
Of course, if he lost his job, his family would be impoverished, but he had no time to think about that.
→My father was at the end of his rope.

・My father was a very strong man.
He drank and smoked an unusual amount of alcohol, but his body never broke down.

・My father was lucky.
He was not caught driving drunk.

・My father was either kind or didn’t have the guts to speak up.
He lacked the ability to negotiate.

・My father was an unpretentious man.
He liked simplicity.

As I said at the beginning, I don’t think my father is a nice person.
But the next time I see my father, I would like to give him words of sympathy for his hardship.

In my experience, design employees and sales employees often did not get along.
According to a design employee, “Sales employees just say ‘yes’ at the customer’s site.
According to a sales employee, “The designer can’t understand me.”
They belonged to the same company and should have shared company policies, but they were not united.
Today I think about the disagreement between design and sales employees.

[Reason for disagreement #1: Different sections or departments]
Because different sections or departments have a distance between the sales person and the designer, and thus, the deterioration of the relationship will not interfere with normal business operations.

[Reason for disagreement No. 2: Differences in values]
Designers are responsible for developing new technologies.
It is difficult for them to find value in people who do not develop new technologies.
For this reason, they do not make an effort to have a good relationship with salespeople, and when this relationship deteriorates, they do not try to repair it.

[Reason #3 for disagreement: lack of greeting and daily conversation]
If they are seated far from each other, there is no greeting of good morning, nor any other daily conversation.
They may misunderstand the other person’s personality in a way that is filled with their imagination.
This may make the relationship worse, but it will not make it better.

○Conclusion
I think the first step toward uniting design and sales employees is to bring their seats closer together.
If they see each other working hard and greet each other every day, they will be able to understand each other correctly.
As a result, the company’s performance will improve, salaries will increase, and work will become more enjoyable.

Today, I’d like to think about
“I’m not smart enough.

Suppose Mr. A says,
“I’m not smart enough” to take this case.”
And let’s suppose that
Mr. B hears that statement.

The following can be considered about Mr. A.
・He is not interested in “this case” in the first place.
・He can imagine the difficulty of the case.
・He thinks that his own ability will never improve.
　In other words, he thinks they will never grow.
・he doesn’t think it is necessary to
　improve their ability.
・he is afraid of failure.
・he doesn’t want to take responsibility.
・he wants to live comfortably.

I can think of Mr. B as follows.
・When Mr.B feels discomfort,
　he believes that Mr. A can do it.
・If Mr.B feels discomfort, Mr. B is making a lot of
　effort in his daily life.
・If Mr.B feels strange, he feels that there is a right way
　to say it.

First of all,
although Mr. A says “I’m not smart enough”,
he is smart.
Because he can imagine the difficulty of this case.
So he should rephrase it as follows.

“I want to enjoy my life, so I can’t do it.
“I can’t do it because I can’t grow up.”
“I’m not interested, so I can’t do it.”

Then why did he say, “I’m not smart enough”?

There may have been an unspoken word.
“I’m not smart enough to do it (but B could do it).”
Or
“I can’t do it because I’m not smart enough (but I’ll work on something else that I’m good at).”
Etc.

Also, Mr. A will not be able to improve his income at least.
If he understands this and says it, he is evaluating himself
as already completed.

[Conclusion]
・It is difficult to interpret “I’m not smart enough”.
・I can think he said “I want to enjoy my life” in other
　words, but it could also be seen as an exhortation
　to those around him to get up the courage to do so.
・This phrase should be used only when
　one’s retirement is near.
・Or, it is used by those who realize that
　they are about to retire.

thanks for reading.